Things To Pursue As a Single by Kingsley Okonkwo.
* If you want to attract the right person you must first be the kind of person that can attract that person.
1. Pursue True Worship/ Practical Worship: it means you’re going to grow your own life with God “And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all He has done for you. This is truly the way to worship Him. “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service”.Romans 12:1This is truly the foundation for good success in life, that is, seeking, walking and working with God.
The Father truly desires our absolute reverence and obeisance as we journey in life. Now is the time to ascend into that reality of pursuing true and practical worship.But the time is coming—indeed it’s here now—when true worshipers will worship the Father in Spirit and in truth. The Father is looking for those who will worship Him that way.
“But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in Spirit and in truth: for the Father seeketh such to worship him. God is a Spirit: and they that worship Him must worship Him in Spirit and in truth”.John 4:23-24.
2. Pursue purpose: pursue purpose which is where fulfilment lies. The whole idea of marriage is to help you fulfill purpose because Adam already had a purpose before Eve was given to him. Before the helper comes there must be something the helper is coming to help you to do.”And I will pray to the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever”—John 14:16.
The helper was never promised to just abide forever but to help us fulfill the purpose found in Jesus where fulfilment lies. However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come – John 16:13. He will tell you things to come about that purpose you are pursuing.
You must develop the passion, interest and zeal and seek direction by the Helper resident inside of you. Your purpose mustn’t be something that you hear heaven shout out loud. It may be something salient, that is putting pressure or burdensome about life, that God is using to pull your attention.
Whenever it comes to purpose, God’s dealings with us is on our personal peculiarity with Him. To some, it may be through dreams, open vision, audible voice or still voice. Whatever it may be for you, you’d have to understand and pay apt attention to every detail God is revealing through our peculiarities.
In real life, sometimes God speaks to you via the aforementioned means, other times it is your challenges or your trials that helps point to His interest for you.
It’s not every challenge or trial you react to quickly, some are trying to pass a message. You just get frustrated and your first idea is to quit or give up, quit the marriage, the relationship or the church. Sometimes God is using that to call your attention. What’s frustrating you in Nigeria might be your calling
That’s how Moses knew his calling; He was burdened and frustrated about how the Egyptians were treating the Israelites, unknown to him that it was a pointer to his calling.
3. Pursue principles: A lot of things that principles will solve, some people are still praying about it. There are lots of people that have gone ahead of you that can tell you the principles of what you’re trying to do. Once you’re under the principle of something and you apply it, you won’t need to beg, it will work cheaply. Just like the name and blood of Jesus, once you come by that principle of the name and the finished work of Jesus through His blood, every knee will bow and every tongue must confess Jesus’s Lordship and Sovereignty, Phillipians 2:9-11, Matthew 26:28.
You can have a good marriage; no matter the experience of people or what some other marriages are turning to, all you need to do is follow the God given principles to marriage and you will succeed. Holding on to or prototyping your marriage to peoples experience will lead to a failed marriage. What we should try to do is to help people’s mind by letting them understand what it means and advise them to play by the principles.
Some people have used their experiences in life to make others give up on their pursuit of purposes and dreams in life. Some believe their own is never going to be good, either marriage or other pursuit because of the negativities faced by others. We should point people to knowing, understanding and applying the principles that pertains every aspect of life, so as to derive fulfilments in it.
There are principles to attracting the right spouse.There are principles to choosing the right spouse.There are principles to keeping the right spouse.There are principles to everything if you can find it and apply it.
Attract, choose, keep and use the right principle!
If you want to attract the right person you must first be the kind of person that can attract that person. Your single years are not just for waiting, they are for building. There are so many things you should do with your life while single, something that makes you more eligible for marriage, not just being eligible but you become a better candidate even when you’re married.
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