Should There Be SEE FINISH in a Relationship? – Solomon Buchi
The beauty of a relationship is in SEE FINISH. SEE FINISH is necessary to know if someone loves you. It is a state of knowing someone in and out – all their insecurities, struggles, lows…. It is knowing someone enough to take them for granted, but love is deciding not to….
SEE FINISH for me fosters intimacy and acceptance. How would the love deepen if there isn’t total openness and ‘nakedness’. All cards should be laid on the table. This is how love works. And avoiding SEE FINISH is stifling a potential opportunity for greater intimacy.
See, admiration is different from love. Most times when you admire someone you don’t know(maybe a celebrity), it’s based on mystery, but when you get closer to them, you may most likely like them less. This is because admiration thrives on mystery, but love thrives on knowledge. Some people try to be mysterious in their relationships to avoid SEE FINISH, but that’s not love. Again, love is premised on knowledge. Love is when I have seen you enough to take you for granted, know you enough to hurt you, but I choose to value you.
One reason why SEE FINISH is beautiful to me is because it is a privilege to get to know my partner on a level that nobody else knows her. This is fulfilling. When you understand the beauty of this, you’ll see it differently. And SEE FINISH is impossible without vulnerability. I hosted a Twitter space and a guy defined vulnerability as giving someone the power to hurt you, however and whenever they want. That is profound, because there’s no love unless you stand to lose something.
While you should be careful with sharing yourself with people on such deep level. I need to state that you will never be able to have absolute control in love. You must come to terms that your love, openness and vulnerability WILL NOT guarantee same. You can never control that.
This is a realistic approach. Hence, love is like a high-risk investment, it can come with high reward, but can also crash like the Titanic. Before you invest, you must be willing to lose it all. And many times we are too careful that we miss out on love. It is a RISK. There’s no need to avoid SEE FINISH, it is inevitable in a serious relationship. Ask honest married people. Just find someone whose value for you is based on realistic love not the fairytale rhetoric that Hollywood promotes. Hollywood doesn’t promote REAL LIFE.
With more knowledge about a person should come more love, but some people are too fickle that the more they know about you, the less the love you. They want the honeymoon phase forever, that’s why their relationships always end between 3-6 months. They lack the maturity to handle the wholesomeness of a person while keeping respect & love alive. When we say that love is a decision, it sounds easy, but the implementation of this isn’t that easy. Love is hard-work & many are too lazy for it. Choose your person REALISTICALLY.
Finally, it’s possible to get bored when there’s SEE FINISH. I said BOREDOM not DISRESPECT, and in times like this, intentionality comes in. You communicate with your partner & you guys fan the flames.
The spark will never stay same forever. Sometimes you’ll need to fan it harder.
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