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𝐖𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐲 𝐉𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐧
𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 7
Daddy, sincerely I don’t know what to say, but her behaviour towards me and that slap she gave me that night got me really angry so I wanted to teach her a lesson which made me called and informed my elder sister about my wife’s attitude so she gave me that counsel that we should drag her to the village for that so as to stop her from behaving like that another time…
Oh no brother Abayomi, you shouldn’t have done that nau the pastor’s wife said shaking her head in disagreement with what Abayomi just said…
Yes the pastor echoed… Brother Abayomi, why didn’t you seek counsel to the right source, you see where her counsel has landed your marriage now…
I am sorry, but I knew if I called you or Mummy at that moment I was angry, you would not have allowed me do what I wanted to do…I was really bothered I wanted to show her that what she did pained me that is why I did not call you Mummy or daddy, I was angry and I wanted to show her that I am a man and she should not take me for granted anymore.
Oh no brother Abayomi, the pastor’s wife said you were not supposed to go that far, having a revengeful mindset towards your partner will not solve marital issues but worsen it.
Yes pastor Amos echoed nodding his head in agreement with what his wife is saying then he said… The two of you did not act like Christians in all your behaviours in this marriage, you both did not behave like children of God at all. I have never seen what kills marriage fast like the spirit of “do me I do you” that the both of you possess in this union… how can you allow little issue to grow into a big problem like this….
Sister Abayomi, when your husband refused to stop the use of the phone like you complained why didn’t you talk to someone about it for him to change instead you too you started your own and you have improved on it to the point of telling your husband that phone is more useful to you than a human being… That was a very bad statement that you uttered to your husband…
And brother Abayomi, you did not do well too, in fact all your approaches towards solving issues in this marriage were all not godly, I am not happy about how you are representing Christ in your home at all… If things must be set right in your home the head of the family must make them right and you even worsen the matter by seeking counsel from the wrong source if not for divine intervention.
This marriage has suffered a lot of things, abandonment, lack of attention, lack of love, lack of care because of the spirit of do me I do you (revengeful spirit) unforgiveness, and the chief of them all is unsolved conflicts which has graduated to hatred, bitterness and resentment between the two of you.
Brother Abayomi, the phone is not the main bone of contention here, your main problem in this marriage started from the early stage of your marriage when your wife was complaining that you didn’t have time for her when you came back from work and stay on your laptop or phone, that problem was ignored, yes it was left untreated, you refused to change and that graduated to her devising a means of solving the problem alone and she too got herself fixed on her phone and became more grounded than you. She replaced you with her phone in her heart long ago…
Lack of adequate attention to each other and revenge is the main problem in this marriage and for 10 good years the two of you have struggled to make it work but no way because the first problem that was left untreated needs to be treated if not progress is not guaranteed.
Anyway, we are not here to analyze all that each of you did or did not do again we are here to correct things so that this marriage can work properly from now on…
God bless you pastor Amos yes that marriage has suffered a lot in the hands of brother and sister Abayomi, they abandoned their marriage for who to run for them? It is well…
