MY BABY HUSBAND
Episode 80
By Ayo Omolayo
My phone rang aloud. Should I say it was ringing louder than I thought it usually did? I was so disturbed by its noise. I had the most beautiful sleep and here was a phone call to ruin it. This is unacceptable.
I got up and picked up the phone. It was Mummy Silas. I froze on the spot. What was she going to tell me? What was on her mind? How was she going to see me now?
I exhaled and swiped the green bar. Sooner or later, this conversation had to take place. And I was trusting the Holy Spirit to help me do the right thing.
“Hello Mummy!” I greeted.
Hello dear! How are you?”
“I’m fine ma! I’m much better than I was yesterday night. I was so depressed after the call yesterday.i just didn’t know what to do. I was……”
“It’s alright my daughter. I shouldn’t have left you the way I did. It was so wrong of me. I must have really gotten you worried. I’m so sorry about that! Please forgive me!” She apologized.
“Mummy! I should be the one apologizing. I really let you down. At the point where you counted so much on me, I fumbled. I made a fool of myself and made you commend a hypocrite. I was so proud on the phone that I spoke of how careful I had been. Instead of speaking about how the Lord had helped us to stay pure.
I guess God taught me a big lesson that day. Forever in life, I will never forget that God resists the proud and gives grace to the humble. It’s a lesson I will never forget in life”. I replied.
“Olamide! There’s one thing you did that really got me happy. You didn’t hide your failures from me. A lot of people would have played along and allowed me to praise them falsely. But you admitted your wrongs and stopped my accolades. That’s a genuine and sincere person.
That’s one thing you did that really struck my heart. I was overwhelmed with joy that you could be this sincere. Olamide! You’re a rare gem. You’re indeed a virtuous woman. The kind of wife who will not fail her generation”.
“Thank you ma! Once again, I’m sorry! I apologize for all the pain I must have cost you. I’m sorry for disappointing you”, I apologized.
“It’s okay! It’s completely fine. Stop the apologies, okay?”
“Okay ma”.
“So have you heard from my son?”
“No ma! Actually, I’m waiting for him to call me. We had not spoken since the incident”.
“No! Don’t wait for him to call you. Call him and apologize to him. Stop waiting for him. You may not have an idea of what Satan is putting him through. It took the grace of God to help him reconcile himself back to God last night.
Thanks for the airtime you sent. It really served it’s purpose. I exhausted it in a conversation that lasted more than an hour. Please call him! He really needs to hear from you.
He’s making alot of false assumptions about how you feel about him. You know Silas very well. Even when he’s innocent, he’ll still be the one to apologize. He’ll always take the blame and accept responsibility. It’s funny sometimes. But that’s how he is. I would really love you to call him, so his mind can be at peace.
“Okay mummy! Thank you so much!” I replied.
“We bless God for everything. Just call him please!”
“I’ll do that immediately I end this call”, I replied.
“I’m ending it already! Bye!” She said and hung up.
I smiled as I entered my banking app on my phone and recharged her line again.
“What a mother indeed. I am so proud to be a member of this family!” I said to myself as I dialed Silas’ number and waited for him to pick.
It rang three times, before he finally picked it up.
“Hello!”
“Hi!”
“How are you?” I asked.
“I’m fine. I’m glad I’m really doing okay. How about you?”
“I’m good! I mean not that good a few hours ago but really really good now. I was so depressed and felt like dying sef”.
“Ha! Die and leave me alone? How will you do that to me?”
“I can’t na! That as why I told God to do it himself. I told him to kill me. But you know how daddy can do sometimes. He does more than your expectations. He gives you way more than you can ever imagine.
I’m so grateful to God for giving me a mentor like Mrs Juliet Thompson. She’s such a blessing to me and my unborn children. They are going to really thank her for everything”.
“Yes that’s true! God was so merciful to us”.
“Indeed he was!”
“Charming, I’m so sorry for everything. I am the reason why you had to go through all those depression and thinking. I mean, God was trying to teach me a big lesson and you had to go for it.
You were too innocent and should have been spared”.
“Shush! Christy! Keep quiet! Will a man judge God?”
“No!”
“Can the clay tell the potter why are you making me like this?”
“No”.
“Forget about the past. We have a bright future ahead of us. We both lost guard and gave in to pride. I was not excluded. I was proud of the purity in my relationship. I started comparing myself with some brothers in my church.
It wasn’t just you Christy. I was also taught a lesson. I just thank God for his mercies. Now I see clearly. Psalms 127:1. Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
It’s God that kept me all these while. It was God that kept us all these while, not our own willpower or human strength. But pride comes and makes us start sharing God’s glory with him. And because God will never share his glory with anyone. He is forced to withdraw his grace and watch us struggle to be holy in our human strength.
That’s what happened to us. We started talking as if God was not the watchman. Those times when we were tempted and he restrained us. Those times when he told us to stop. We forgot about everything and acredited everything to ourselves. He will never share his glory with anyone”.
“That’s true! Thank you so much for being an understanding Charming!” I said beaming with smiles.
“Please! I don’t want to charm an innocent girl this morning”, he replied.
“Please I need your charms ooo! It’s been a while I heard this lovely voice. I really missed you. I mean, I missed us”.
“Yes! Me too. I’m so glad God is still our number one team mate. We’re moving and Satan will not stop us”.
“Amen!” I replied.
“So how was your meeting with your uncle?”
“Wow! It’s almost as if we forgot about our wedding”.
“You were the one that forgot ooo! Me I was the one that reminded you. So don’t rub your forgetting our wedding on my innocent memorious capturing supersonic brain”.
I burst into laughter and threw myself on the bed.
“You’re not serious. Have you forgotten that once Eve has eaten the apple, her Adam don chop am be that”.
“No ooo! Dr Mrs Lot look back no mean say Oga Lot go look back oooo. The race na personal!”
I laughed.
“But Sarah doubted God and automatically, Abraham join her by following her advice to get a child from Hagar”.
“No ooo! Abigail had a useless husband does not mean she go dey useless. She use her brain save her life from David’s army. When she knew David was going to destroy her husband Nabal and his family, which included herself. She quickly went behind her husband’s back and gathered food items. She took them to David and pleaded with him to spare her family.
She even saved that man Nabal, through her wisdom. But later, God struck Nabal by himself and he died. So can you see say na personal race we dey so?”
“But I really envy the wisdom of Abigail!” I replied.
“Please envy it very well ooo! You’ll be needing it in our marriage. A woman that knows when to talk to her husband and when to remain silent. She knew her husband was drunk, talking to him about the attack David planned would not enter his head. So she waited for the right time to speak to her husband.
When his spirit will be calm. When he’s not angry. When he’s weak and will be able to reason properly. Chai! That woman was a wise woman. It takes wisdom to live with a husband that is not born again. But Abigail lived with such a man and there was never a record that Nabal beat her.
She knows how to speak. She knows when to keep quiet. She knows when her husband is angry and how to bear all the insults without replying him back.
1 Samuel 25:36 And Abigail came to Nabal; and, behold, he held a feast in his house, like the feast of a king; and Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunken: wherefore she told him nothing, less or more, until the morning light.
Verse 37. But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became as a stone.
She knows how to get him through her words”.
“Wait! Did you say, she knows how to get him through her words?” I asked.
“Yes!”
“Wow! How can I get you through my words?”
“Chai! See Christiana ooo! She’s acting like Delilah. Tell me the secret to your strength. Jesus! Women are dangerous ooo! Well, they are still good when they are Jesus angels. Because if they know the secret of your strength, they will use it to get you when you’re going astray. Like Abigail did to Nabal and got him.
I noticed something Christy. Men are beings of power and strength. But women are beings of influence. That’s why the bible calls them weaker vessel. They are not weaker vessels because they are inferior to men. They are weaker vessel because according to the physical, they are weak in a perspective though.
But the power of a woman is just as strong as that of a man. It’s the woman that fails to realize her powers. Her powers is not is physical combat or arguing with her husband. Her powers is what we Christians called THE WISDOM OF A SERPENT.
Satan doesn’t use force, yet he controls the earth and the people in it. Stop using force, use your influence. Submit to the man, respect the man. Say yes sir like a fool. It’s not stupidity. It’s wisdom and influence.
There is a principle in the spirit realm called THE LAW OF ATTRACTION. When you consistently obey a person, the heart of the person will gradually soften towards you and be attracted to you. That’s how it works.
That is how to bring out the love on a man’s heart. Your husband will love you Ehn! You will be complaining the love is too much.
You don’t shout at your husband that he doesn’t love you anymore. Even when he’s not doing enough, you are praising him like a president. You bring out the love in his heart. You bring out the king in him and like Esther he will say, ‘Ask for anything you want and it shall be granted, even to the half of my kingdom’.
That was the mistake Vashti used. Silence treatment. My dear please come and she will tell him I am not coming. It’s true her husband offended her, but she was not fighting with the strength of a woman. She was fighting a man like a fellow man. And when a woman tries to be a man, it’s a loss.
Look at Esther. She and the king had been in the palace for good 3 months, yet they never saw each other. Yet, she went to the king and instead of accusing him of abandoning her and the children. Instead of shouting at him for being so busy at his place of work. Traveling for one business trip to another. She threw him a welcome party.
Just imagine! Women can control their men if they master the art of Attraction. Men command, ‘Come here’, and the woman will come. But when the woman uses her influence to command the man, he will not only come, he will sleep there.
What attracts the man to the woman is how the woman submits. Not necessarily her beauty. It’s her submission that unlocks the love in the heart of the man and he falls in love so badly that he cannot recover from it”.
I was seriously enjoying the marriage seminar, when the call ended abruptly.
“Ha! Airtime!”
To be continued………
Oya oooo! Ladies in the house! You guys should come and buy airtime for Oga Silas oooo.
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Please I am not a marriage counselor ooo. I only wrote as the Spirit inspired me.
Nobody should call me marriage counselor ooo. I will tell my mummy for you ooo!
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Please apply these Principles. And watch your marriage transform.
So Uncle Akinyele, we’re coming for you! We are back on our feet.
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