MY BABY HUSBAND
Episode 74
By Ayo Omolayo
“I told you to come and see me and you’re proving stubborn as a boss you are. Keep calling me. You would soon succeed in making me barr your number”
I had called and called my uncle but there was no response.
“Daddy what do I do?”
“YOU HAVE TO DO AS HE SAYS. GO TO HIM AND SUBMIT YOURSELF TO HIS AUTHORITY”.
My phone started ringing and I exhaled at the sight of the caller’s ID. I wanted to smile but I had a confession to make. I just didn’t know how well the message would go with him.
“Hello Pretty Christy”, he said as I answered the call.
“Hi!” I replied glumly.
“How are you doing?”
“Hmmmmm! I don’t know”.
“What do you mean you don’t know? You know but you don’t want to tell me. Is it because you are stingy? Or you think what you did has not been reported to me how stingy you are”, he said.
My head swelled with shock. What have I done?
“Sir! What did they tell you?”
“You’re a stingy person! And I am surprised you are such a stingy person!”
“What did I do sir? Please tell me”, I said, almost crying
“You refused to smile for me”, he answered.
The way I laughed, I almost thought I would pass out laughing. I laughed so hard that it took me almost 5 minutes to recover from it.
“Is that what made me a stingy woman? Refusing to smile for my Charming?”
“Yes! I called you and instead of giving me that cheerful voice. You’re giving me Mama’s voice”.
“Ha! Which one is mama’s voice?” I chuckled.
“The way grumpy old women express themselves na”.
“So you’re calling me a grumpy old woman, right?”
“No oooo! I forbid bad thing”, he replied and we both laughed.
Then there was absolute silence. None of us said a word. It was obvious there was something important to discuss.
“So how did it go?” He asked.
“How did what go?
“Your conversation with your uncle”.
I sighed and shook my head.
“Charming I have a confession to make. I don’t know if you’ll be able to bear what I have to say. I just have to say it so we can know the way forward”, I said.
“Okay, I’m all ears”, he replied.
“Charming, I’ve not always been the submissive wife you think I am. I was once a bitter and arrogant lady. I was so did respectful and full of hatred. Even after I got born again, these traits were still found in me. Should I say, they stuck to me.
The point is. Many years ago, it was made clear to me that my uncle is responsible for my parents demise. I don’t want to go into that story because it’s such a long story and you know I love telling a story to the details.
So part of the negative attitude in me was what I gave my uncle. I disrespected gin so much. I insulted him without remorse, even when the Holy Spirit within me tried to stop me through my conscience. I was a stubborn and arrogant niece. You wouldn’t want to come close to me if I tell you my past relationship between my uncle and I.
The conclusion of the matter is this. My uncle is set to have his pound of flesh and he intends to do so with our marriage. He wants to pay back by refusing to join us together or approve our union. So I really don’t know how to get him to agree with us and make this marriage approved.
I’m really sorry I messed up in the past. My past is paying me now. The most painful part of it is that I brought the innocent you into my horrible past, to suffer it’s consequences with me. I should be suffering it alone. But you have to suffer it with me. I messed up so bad and dragged you into my mess”.
There was a brief silence before he finally spoke.
“So what is your suggestion?”
I thought he would actually throw some blame at me for not being a good example of a born again Christian. I was expecting some sort of blame. I was surprised he was more willing to know the next step to take than spend time dwelling on the past.
“Can’t we do this marriage without my uncle? What do we need him for? He’s not a believer. He’s not my father. I can always hire someone to stand in for him. I see no reason why we should allow him stop us”, I answered.
“Cris get your bible”, he replied.
Wow! Another bible study. I quickly picked it up and was set to flip it’s pages.
“Have you done that?”
“Yes sir!”
“Open to Romans chapter 13, start from verse one”.
I opened my Bible and read as soon as I arrived at the passage.
“Verse 1. Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.
Verse 2. Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation”.
“Stop there!”
I paused immediately.
“Those who resist the authority shall receive to themselves what?”
“Damnation”, I answered.
“Who placed the people in authority? You or God?”
“God!”
“So whether your uncle is born again or not, he’s your leader and the only father figure you have left. You must submit to his authority. Rebelling against his instructions, is as good as fighting against God.
So we cannot go behind his back and get married. That’s disrespect. He must approve the marriage first, before we can move on”.
I felt like I was stuck. Why was I feeling this way? What was wrong with me? I thought God had already told me how to handle my uncle. Why all these negative feelings?
“Charming! I’m so sorry I dragged you into all these. I’m really sorry I messed up in the past and you have a lot of mess to clean up.
I haven’t told you this before but, I’m not even a virgin. I have given my body several times to my former boyfriend when I was in the world. And even after I got born again, I fell into immorality with that same boyfriend.
I’m not a virgin like you are. You have kept yourself for me, but I never did. All I did was to keep messing things up and here you are, fighting a battle you never caused. I’m really sorry I gave out what is supposed to be yours to another man. I’m so sorry I was….was. …..”
I broke into tears on the phone. It’s so true that your decisions today would affect someone else out there. I never knew my actions were going to affect my future husband. Now I see clearly. Now I understand why God was our only way to a good life. I wanted all of what life outside God could offer.
I got what I wanted but with a package of shame, regrets and consequences.
“Pretty Christy! What are those tears for!” Came my Charming’s voice.
“Sir!” I said in a choked up voice.
“Do you think I was a saint? Have I told you that I almost fell into immorality with a lady from our church? An agent sent to destroy me? Do you think it was by my own power that I overcame her seduction?”
“No sir! I remembered you told me about her”.
“So I kept myself right?”
“Sir!”
“No answer me! I kept myself because I was such a strong Christian, right?”
“No sir!”
“Come on! Silas is such a strong believer. He can resist any temptation. He’s such a genius. He’s not like Christiana who fell into immorality several times. He’s such a wonderful Christian! Am I correct?”
“No sir!”
“So who am I to condemn you? Who the hell do you think I am to judge you? Jesus said to those Pharisees that the only person without sin should throw the first stone. Those evil and hypocritical men were humble enough to drop their stones and leave. But do you know something?”
“What sir!”
“There was one person present who had every right to stone the woman. Who was that person?”
“Jesus”.
“But what did Jesus tell her?”
“I do not condemn you”, I answered, wiping my tears from my face.
“Now, if the sinless Jesus refused to condemn a woman caught red handed in adultery, is it this sinner called Silas that will condemn you. Without the righteousness of Jesus inputted into me through faith am I not a sinner?”
“Yes”.
“I am putting on someone’s clothes and everyone looks at me and say that I am looking cute. But within me, I know the clothes are not mine. So do you expect me to start boasting to others who did not have access to the giver of the clothes I’m putting on?”
“No”.
“Those clothes are the righteousness of Jesus. I can’t condemn you. I can’t! Who am I? I can’t! It was God that kept me. It was God that saved me. On my own I would not only have lost my virginity. I would have lost more than that. I should have slept with that lady, died and be burning in hell right now.
So you expect me to pick stone and start stonning you?”
“No!”
“If Jesus could not stone that woman? If the sinless Jesus could not castigate that woman? If the righteous Jesus could not condemn that woman? Why do Christians judge one another? This is the handwork of the devil”.
“Thank you so much Charming. I feel much better right now”.
“Open to Joel 2:25”, he said.
I quickly opened my Bible and read
“And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you”.
“Who will restore it?”
“God!” I answered.
“Did God say I will punish you for the years you allowed the demons to waste for you?”
“No!”
“What did he say he would do?”
“He said he will restore it”.
“That’s Spiritual Navigation. Now open to Isaiah 43:18″.
I flipped through the pages of my Bible and smiled as I read.
Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.
Verse 19. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert”.
“What did God say he will do?”
“A new thing!”
“Our God is not a God of hopelessness. Say it!”
“Our God is not a God of hopelessness”, I repeated.
“When did he say he will do a new thing?”
“Now”.
“Let me hear you clearly. When?”
“Now”.
“Is it tomorrow?”
“No”.
“Maybe the next two weeks, right?”
“No”.
“Come on! God must be so powerless, maybe he needs one year to do a new thing, am I correct?”
“No”.
“Ha! Are you sure?”
“Yes”, I replied grinning.
“Is God a liar?”
“Never!”
“So when he says now, you’re sure he meant what he said?”
“Yes he does”.
“So where is that devil telling you that you messed up?”
“Chai! Satan is such a liar!” I said in excitement.
“Where is that Devil telling you that all you have to do is to eat up the messes of the past?”
“Jesus! I never realized Spiritual Navigation was as powerful as this? That you would wipe all my mess. That you would clean up a room you never messed up. What a loving God! What a compassionate God you are! Jesus! I love you so much!”
“Yes! Go ahead and fall in love with him, he’s such a darling!”
“God you’re wonderful!” I said all smiles.
“Christy! Can we sing to Jesus right now?” He asked.
“Why not!”
“Please give us a song”, he replied.
I went down on my knees and held the phone close to my mouth. I raised my other hand in the air in worship.
“See the way you love me
See the way you care for me
You Carry my Matter
For your Head oh
Ine me Obi nasom
Like a little baby
You watch over me oh
You no dey carry me dey play Oh
Ine me Obi nasom
Ah ah ah ah
Ah ah ah ah
Obi nasom oh oh
Ineme Obi nasom (2x)
Jesus Ineme Obi nasom Oh
Obi nasom Oh oh
Obi nasom Oh oh
Ineme Obi nasom (2x)
Because of Jesus (Because of Jesus Christ)
I’ve got joy overflow
Unlimited Favour
It’s like a River in my Soul
Because of Jesus (Because of Jesus Christ)
I’ve got joy overflow
Unlimited Favour
It’s like a River in my Soul
[Chorus]
Ah ah ah ah
Ah ah ah ah
Obi nasom oh oh
I neme Obi nasom (2x)
I could hear the sound of guitar from the phone. My Charming was singing along with me and playing the guitar.
Tears flowed down my cheeks as we worshipped God.
“Daddy! I’m so unworthy! I don’t deserve it! Who am I? Yet you want to do a new thing for me? You want to restore the years I lost in sin a error. You want to correct my mistakes?
How much will I give to you? What have I done to deserve this?”
To be continued……..
CHAI! I feel like shedding tears of joy.
I had goose bumps all over my body as I wrote this episode.
I don’t know what mistakes you have made in the past . That’s none of my business!
But here’s what God is saying.
Genesis 18:14 Is any thing too hard for the LORD?
Brethren, can we begin to thank God wherever you are right now.
Don’t just read without typing a word of thanksgiving in the comment box.
Don’t be a Ghost reader please! Thank this Loving God!
He’s so sweet! If only I could kss him??????????
Song of Solomon 1:2. Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
INSPIRED BY THE BREAD OF LIFE
WRITTEN BY AYO OMOLAYO
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