JUST AFTER I SAID I DO Episode 6
“I’m so sorry for not getting in touch with you all this while dearie”….
I said softly with a broad smile as I watch Amaka stepped out of her
kitchen with a tray containing a glass cup of water. She gently placed
the tray on the table right before me and she handed over the glass cup
of water to me…. ” no no no, it’s nothing dear, I was actually worried
when I didn’t hear from you in a very long time, but I felt I should
just give you sometime more, before I press further. I felt you changes
your mind about telling me all you’re going through in your
marriage”…..
She sat down with full concentration and seriousness
and it was just obvious she was expecting an answer from me without any
delay. I tried to sit upright and I adjusted all parts of my body to
make sure I’m perfectly comfortable. I gently placed my right palm in
the left one and I rested my left arm on one of the arms of the couch as
I crossed my legs.
….. “You see darling, my mother inlaw has
been around for some time now, And she’s part of the problem I am facing
in my marriage presently, and so I just have to keep my cool to avoid
troubles and all… That’s why you haven’t heard from me in a long time.
( I paused for a while and I gave Amaka this “I have actually accepted
my fate” look, because it was all over Amaka’s face that she’s a bit
surprised that my mother inlaw is also a pain in my neck in my
marriage)… Anyway, it’s all fine, now I am here with you, can we talk?
She nodded with a great interest and I need not to be told that
she has actually been waiting and anticipating to hear from me.. I
gently stood up from where I was sitting and I sat so very close to her
on the couch she was sitting… And I began to speak so faintly with a
little affection as though I was her mother….
You see darling,
Hhhmm, *Your marriage, and the type of man you get married to can
either make or mar your destiny*…. No matter how much you have
actually been on track while you were still single, if you mistakenly
miss it in the place of marriage… Hhhmm, your destiny, plan and
purpose will pay for it so dearly…. And you’ll spend years making
amends and living as tho you’re dead….
Look at me, just take a
look at me… I appear so nice on the physical, I have the body, but the
engine is gone, just because I married the man who do not understand
the manual that comes along with me….
Amaka, two years, I mean
two good years of my marriage has been wasted already, just because I
got married to the wrong person, the years that I’m suppose to be using
in securing the future of my kids in the place of prayer, I am using it
to ask for mercy and restoration concerning the wrong man….
If you miss it in the place of marriage, trust me, you’ll keep wasting
your time to ask for mercy and guidance when you’re suppose to be
investing in the place of prayer…..
So please my dear, let all
the ladies out there know that, it is very important to ask for mercy
and guidance from God while you’re still single so that you can spend
your precious prayer time on things that are important when you finally
get married instead of prayer of mercy and comfort…
I gently
dabbed the lower part of my eyelids with my handkerchief to avoid the
flow of tears that were already gathered in my eye and I continued…
Hhhmm…
Amaka, I made a lot of mistakes while I was still single despite the
fact that I know the truth. If it’s actually possible for me to turn
back the hands of time and have a second chance….
Dear,
I
will wait patiently in the place of prayer to hear directly from God
himself and the people he uses in speaking to me before I say yes to any
man, no matter how religious and dedicated he might be…
Amaka… If I’m given the second chance, i’ll take my time to know,
study and also pray for my man before I say I do to him…
I’ll
invest all the precious time I wasted while I was Still an undergraduate
in school, to secure the future of my marriage…
I’ll spend my time and nights to speak peace and comfort into my marriage…
If I was still single, i’ll have arrested and committed the heart of
my husband and that of all my in-laws into the hands of God. I would
have planted and sealed my love in their heart in the place of prayer.
And trust me, if I had done this before saying I do…. My mother inlaw
wouldn’t have had her way into my marriage just as she’s doing. God
would have arrested her and planted my love in her heart by fire by
force and she won’t have any choice than to pray endlessly in my
favour…
See you for the next episode on JUST AFTER I SAID I DO…
Hmmmmmm….it’s well
Hmmm…May God help us.
It’s not easy going through marital problems. It’s so depressing……..