MY BABY HUSBAND Episode 7 – Ayo Omolayo
“Who is the Christian husband?” The pastor asked.
I quickly took out my phone and began to track what he was saying.
“The Christian husband is the spiritual head of the home and physically the God ordained leader of the family.
That’s why it is important for you to get married to first God’s choice and secondly, purpose partner.
In every organization, the leaders are the ones who permit what ever the group will do. So if you are not married to someone who understands your divine calling. He may appear like an enemy to you. Whenever you disregard authority, you are in to face God’s anger.
The Christian husband is also the priest of the family. And what is duty of the priest? The priest stands in the gap for the entire household. The priest consults with God even when the entire family is asleep, he still with God.
The priest atones, pleads, and stands to make decrees.
So as a leader, his relationship with God is the most important thing to him. He must not be a lukewarm, baby or an unbeliever. He must be a person that knows how to consult with God whenever a challenge arises.
I remember years ago when my mum gave birth to my younger sister. It was in the middle of the night when my mum started screaming for help. I was observing my quiet time, praying on my knees.
The Holy Spirit told me to remain in my position, so I turned deaf ears to my mother’s screams.
My mum woke my dad up telling him that the baby’s eyes were turning white.
Right where I was the Holy Spirit told me it was an evil spirit sent by a jealous relative to terminate the life of the child.
“Daddy what should we do!” My mum wailed.
“What do you want me to do? Call pastor na!”
“I’m trying his number but he’s not picking. God oooooo! Don’t allow my baby to die!” My mum cried.
“If she dies we will born another one na. She’s only two weeks old”, my dad replied.
His statement angered me and I was surprised my mum said nothing about it.
“God why? Any child we give birth to after our first son, dies as an infant. God please, let this baby live!” Was the trash that came out of my mother’s mouth.
Hmmm, when the head of the home is a baby.
No wonder the bible says in
Ecclesiastes 10:16.
Woe to thee, O land, when thy king is a child, and thy princes eat in the morning!
Blessed art thou, O land, when thy king is the son of nobles, and thy princes eat in due season, for strength, and not for drunkenness!
With the go ahead from the Holy Spirit, I stood up and marched into my parents bedroom. Took the child from my mother’s arms and laid my hands on the child.
“Come out! In the name of Jesus!” That was all.
I returned the child to my mum and went back to continue my prayers. I didn’t even wait to confirm if the child was actually okay or not. I just gave the command and left immediately.
I didn’t hear a sound from my parents room till the next morning. The baby was sound and alive. She’s in the university today as we speak.
But can you see the trash my Dad was saying due to the level of his spirituality?
He had already surrendered to the enemy before the battle started. All my parents could do was to call their church pastor, who was sound asleep.
You can’t marry a man that doesn’t know how to consult God in the face of challenges. He’ll keep recommending the doctor, the hospital and cast blames on whoever is available to take the blame.
Why do you prepare for marriage? Marriage is a lifetime commitment that has the string of responsibilities attached to it.
When responsibilities start coming. Going to work, taking care of the kids, taking care of your spouse and lots more. You become more and more tempted to abandon your prayer altar and see it as something less important.
That’s the first realm of attack. The bible says if the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? That means, living a righteous life cannot easily take care of the damage that a prayerless couple can orchestrate.
So many people who struggled to maintain their prayer lives as singles, entered into a relationship and that was the end of their prayer life. That’s why your singlehood is a great period of preparation.
You build your quiet time and your intimacy with God. That’s the first step. So in marriage, your prayer life cannot be choked up by the cares of this life, what Apostle Paul called trouble in the flesh. Because you moved from the realm of learning how to pray into the realm of mastery.
So even when your body looks stressed out by the activities of the day, your body is so used to praying that it just can’t skip it. That’s the first thing to build because marriage is not freedom to break my abstinence.
Marriage is warfare. Marriage is not honey, darling, sweetie pie, bread of my heart. Marriage is war.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not telling you there’s no pleasure there, but you need to understand that there are two categories of Christians on this planet. Number one is the civilian Christian, number two is the Christian soldier.
So when I say marriage is war, I mean getting married is as good as stepping into the battle field. And as I said earlier, woe to the civilian that runs into the battlefield without adequate training.
Remember, you don’t learn how to use the gun in the battlefield, you learn how to shoot before you enter the battlefield.
The civilian Christian is the Christian that most of us call the bread and butter Christian. They are the ones that are first captured whenever war breaks out. The spiritual children cannot withstand the enemies in Spiritual combat, so they are easy target for the enemy.
Thirty minutes quiet time, one bible verse per day. No fasting life, no alnights. Chats on social media for 6 hours daily. Dozes off within 2 minutes of midnight prayer.
Watches season films for 3 hours. But pours saliva on his bible during personal bible study, due to heavy sleep.
Doesn’t know the word of God, but knows the eleven best players of Chelsea football club. Cannot quote the name of the twelve Apostles correctly, but knows the names of the twelve best Nollywood actors.
Cris, with all I have said so far. Are you sure you want to go ahead and marry this baby husband?”
I looked up at the pastor, shocked by the revelation I had received.
To be continued…….
Brethren, the singlehood period is not a period of daydreaming and fantasy. It’s a time to focus on two most important things
One, building your relationship with God.
Two, finding your purpose and getting busy with it.
Those are the most important things to you right now. You don’t need to allow Satan help you waste your time in Spiritual sluggishness.
Many young Christians today are still relaxing in their comfort zone. Taking things gently, wasting precious time.
They are still joking with their preparation time. Get busy with discovering purpose and building a consistent prayer life.
Rise up!
Rise up!
We’re not in a playground. 5 minutes prayer 15 minutes bible study. Rushed prayers and quiet time because of waking late
Indisciplined lifestyle. You cannot go on like this. It’s time to get up and come up higher.
Hebrews 5:12-14.
For when for the time ye ought to be teachers, ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the oracles of God; and are become such as have need of milk, and not of strong meat. For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe. But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.
INSPIRED BY THE BREAD OF LIFE
WRITTEN BY AYO OMOLAYO
YOUR BROTHER IN CHRIST 🙏
