So, This is Love? – Judith Onyoyibo
The definition of the concept “love” has been a subject of varying interpretations and conceptions. While some equate it to be same as feelings, others see it as pleasure or enjoyment, while others consider it to be long suffering.
What then is the real definition of love?
I went jogging with my bestie, Lisa. We do that almost every morning because we live in the same estate.
“please let’s rest a bit. I’m so tired 
“. I said whilst panting and gasping for breath.
Lisa let out a loud laugh. She stopped running.
“What did you do last night that you are so lazy this morning?”. She asked as she walked towards were I was standing.
“Babes! last night was hottt”. I said whilst making a naughty facial expression.
“A$hàwó”. Lisa said and we both started laughing.
“Allow me to satisfy my man abeg”. I said dismissively.
“When will he even put the ring on your finger? It’s long overdue babe. The guy is capable of paying your bride price for crying out loud”. Lisa said.
I got infuriated by that statement. I get that a lot from people. They cannot allow me to enjoy my relationship in peace without asking when we’d be getting married.
“What’s your business? What do you know about relationships and marriage? When last were you even in a serious relationship?”. I fired heavily at Lisa.
She was dumbfounded. We remained silent for over 10mins.
I realized I overreacted. The truth is that, I have been asking my boyfriend for some time now when we’d be getting married but each time I bring up that discussion, he always prevaricate from it. The more I get asked about it by people, the more pressured I get. The truth is that, I’m not even getting any younger.
“Babe, I’m sorry about what I said. The pressure is high honestly”. I pleaded.
“Shine your eyes my dear. That’s all I have to say to you. I know you are blinded by love already. I go mind my business from now on”. Lisa said.
“I’ve heard you ma”. I said whilst laughing.
“Let me be going to my house before they remind me of how single to stupor I am”. Lisa said as she crossed to the other side of the road.
“I said I’m sorry na. let’s jog some more”. I screamed after her.
Without saying anything, Lisa left for her house.
I was already tired and unmotivated to continue jogging. Lazily, I trekked back home.
My boyfriend was in the seating room when I got in. He was busy with his laptop.
“Good morning babes”. I greeted.
He didn’t reply me. His focus was keenly on his laptop.
“Babes you didn’t reply my greeting. Are you busy with work?”. I asked.
I went to close to him to see what he was so busy with. He angrily pushed me away from him.
“What’s your problem? Why do you keep acting like a child? Can’t you see I’m busy”. He flared up.
Quietly, I left his side.
I went into the kitchen to prepare breakfast. When I was done, I served him breakfast. He ate quietly without saying anything to me. This really got me worried.
“Babe are you mad at me? What did I do wrong?”. I asked.
“Can you allow me eat quietly?”. He asked angrily.
“I am sorry “. I said.
When he was done eating, he too his bath, got dressed and drove out.
I went on with the house chores. After a while, I received a call from my friend Sarah. Myself, Sarah and Lisa have been friends since Secondary school. We all attended same university and also graduated together. This explains our closeness.
Sarah is currently outside the country studying for her master’s degree.
I was on call with her for over 1hr. I didn’t even want the call to end but she had a class to attend that morning.
Immediately I ended the call with her, my boyfriend’s call came in. I answered it immediately.
“What a coincidence, I just ended….” I was still speaking when he shouted angrily.
“When I get back, you will explain who you’ve been on call with for over 2hrs”. He said and ended the call.
I checked my phone and saw that my boyfriend has been trying to reach me for over 30mins ago.
I entered into a frantic state. My boyfriend is the most amazing man I’ve ever met. He is every woman’s dream man. The issue is that he is very overprotective and his anger is always overboard.
He came back home 20mins later.
“Babe, I was on…”. I tried explaining.
The next thing I received was a heavy sláp on face.
“Who’s the stûpîd boy that’s deceiving you?”. He asked angrily.
“You now hit me? Interesting “. I said.
I hurried into the bedroom and started packing my clothes inside my box.
“Where do you think you are going to?”. He asked angrily.
I didn’t say anything. I continued packing my things.
Seeing I was serious, he became calm.
“Baby please calm down”. He said calmly.
I didn’t say anything. I continued packing my stuff. He kept on removing my clothes from my box while I return them back into the box.
“I tried your line severally babe. It kept saying you were on another call. I tried severally but I was told the same thing. I was worried”. He said.
“And the best you could do is to hît me? I am so done with this relationship!”. I fired at him.
He started crying.
“Baby don’t leave me. I acted that way because I love you so much. If you leave me, I won’t survive it”. He said while holding onto my legs firmly.
“I’m so disappointed”. I said angrily.
“Baby slàp me back! Hît me till you’re satisfied”. He said whilst hìttíng himself severally.
I felt pity for him.
“stop híttíng yourself”. I said.
“I won’t until you are no longer angry”. He said.
He went on knocking his head.
“Okay! I forgive you. I won’t leave you”. I said.
“Are you sure?”. He asked happily.
I nodded in affirmative.
He carried me up excitedly.
“I love you so much baby. Stop spending so much time with people on phone, it makes me jealous”. He said.
“I’m sorry for not taking your calls”. I apologized.
We made out passionately afterwards.
That evening, he bought me an expensive bag to apologize properly.
“My boyfriend is simply the best 
“.
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To be continued.
